For the sixth year, I’m participating in Ali Edwards’s One Little Word. My words so far have been finish, savor, weave, expand, and reflect. This year, my word is elastic.
There are a lot of unknowns in the coming year, and I know I’ll need to be flexible. I like the image of a rubber band–stretching to adapt to situations, holding things together, but retaining its original shape when the stretching is done.
It’s also a reminder to myself to not stretch myself too far. I’ve been thinking a lot about Sia’s song Elastic Heart: “Well I’ve got thick skin and an elastic heart… / I’m like a rubber band until you pull too hard / But I may snap when I move close”
I need to keep my goals elastic, because there are changes coming that might make long-term planning difficult. I don’t talk about our adoption story much because there is too much of it that is not my story to tell. I’m sensitive to that information being searchable in the future and during the fostering stage we couldn’t say much about our case. Our story is different that what you typically see depicted but is very common: we began as emergency family (kinship) fostering placement. This year I’m preparing myself for the possibility of starting the process over again.
The physics definition is “(of a collision) involving no decrease of kinetic energy.” Getting my energy up was a big focus for me last year, and I want to keep that up this year. I also like thinking about this metaphorically: if there’s a big emotional collision in my life, I want to be able to keep up my energy and not mope.
I also like the physical implications. Right now I’m watching a friend’s baby during the week and my one year old niece in the afternoons, and taking care of tiny ones requires a lot of sitting (feeding them, snuggling) and hunching (diapers, diapers). I know that, to feel good physically and mentally, I’ll need to do a lot of stretching to counteract that. So I’m going to try to start up daily yoga again and I’m signing up for my first ever exercise class: the kids’ dance studio has a stretch and strength class for adults during Ava’s dance class on Saturday mornings, so that will be perfect.
I think this is going to be just the mindset I need for this year.
I’m excited to dive into January’s prompt and to explore where elastic takes me this year.