Welcome to Project Real Life REDO, a project to re-start the (closed and finished) Project Real Life Workshop with some friends. Project Real Life was a 4Expert course by by Becky Higgins I took care of Big Picture Classes. I’m documenting the class prompts and then I’ll include them in my Project Life.
Week 10 was all about Embracing Imperfection. Imperfections I’ve got in spades, and some of them I’m good at embracing… others not so much. I think that embracing imperfections is a difficult line, because it can be hard to know what to keep trying to improve and what to accept. I usually tackle this by planning on improving everything (I have big goals) and accepting that only the things I really prioritize are actually going to improve.
The things that are hardest to embrace are probably my character flaws. One of the major ones: I’m an insatiable know it all. I have to correct people, even if correction isn’t really relevant to the situation or it probably won’t change anyone’s behavior. So really, it’s for my benefit more than anyone else’s. The people closest to me actually like this for the most part (thank goodness), but it can get me into trouble sometimes. I can come off as obnoxious. Or as an awesome truth ninja. It all depends on your perspective. In many situations, my coping skill for this is usually self-depreciating humor, which is another imperfection all in itself. I think the road to embracing this is really focusing on this as a part of who I am: I’m proud of my knowledge and I like to share it. I also stand up for injustice. I’m not afraid to speak up. On the flip side, a thing to embrace is that I’m quick to acknowledge and apologize if I’ve learned I was wrong. So that’s good.
Other character flaws include a quick temper, avoidance of interpersonal conflict, and a fair amount of narcissism (which you pretty much need to be a writer and a blogger). These are things that are difficult to embrace, because I’d like to improve them. And I have improved them over the years. But they will always be there, and I probably need to work on embracing that character flaws are part of being human.
I take on too much and set unrealistic deadlines for myself. Those aren’t good things, but they are coping mechanisms I developed when I was really young: I dealt with severe depression as a teenager and found that keeping extremely busy all of the time helped me sort of put off the darkness. While I don’t battle depression anymore (I still have problems with anxiety, though), I’m so used to packing my schedule full that I sort of don’t know what to do with myself if I’m forced to relax. This may not be entirely healthy, but it keeps me happy and helps me to achieve more.
My house is never ever clean, and sometimes things can get ridiculous. For instance, we didn’t do any dishes last weekend. We used pretty much every dish in the house. That’s embarrassing, but it’s what needed to happen to get everything else done over the weekend.
If you’re doing a Project Real Life REDO too, head over to Document Life Workshop to link-up and to see what Allie and Alissa are doing!