I don’t have anything brilliant to say on the subject of rape culture. Rape culture is a cultural attitude that normalizes, tolerates, or condones rape. This post is not meant to be an argument over the extent that the United States is a rape culture, but rather to expose and take actions against the ways in rape culture attitudes prevail.
I think I mostly want to write this post because I’m disgusted at the reality and have been shocked and horrified at news stories lately focusing on obscene victim blaming. I’ve been disgusted by the reactions of Facebook friends to these news stories. And I’ve noticed the silence of those I know who have been raped. I don’t know how much talking about it here helps, but this obviously needs to be a national conversation. (And it already is. I’m not “starting the conversation” by any means.)
This post may contain triggers. If you or someone you know is a survivor of sexual assault in the United States, find a local crisis center here or call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1.800.656.HOPE (4673)
April was Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and we supported the 2013 Campaign of the the National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC) to prevent sexual violence against children by talking about the characteristics of healthy childhood sexuality as our cause of the month. Read that post too if you haven’t already. I noted there that the post didn’t address rape culture, and I felt that it needed to.
Why? These folks say it better than I ever could:
- Modern Primate talks about Steubenville Football & Rape Culture and follows up with Part 2
- Stories of rapists being supported instead of victims are prevalent: Michigan High School Chooses To Protect Star Basketball Player Instead Of His Rape Victims
- Why the “No Means No” paradigm is a problem: Only ‘Yes’ Means Yes: What Steubenville’s Rape Trial Reminds Us About Sexual Consent
- Teach men not to rape: Zerlina Maxwell on Hannity: Giving every woman a gun is not rape prevention
- There is something wrong when news anchors focus on the ruined lives of rapists instead of the victim: CNN Pays Tribute to the Rapists
- Todd Akin isn’t the only politician with harmful views on “legitimate rape” More Politicians Support Rape Culture by The Daily Show (Go here for the clips only if you don’t want the full episode.)
- Campaign by the Vancouver Police Department gets it right.
- Wonderful organization to support: Men Can Stop Rape
Most of these links were found through the daily e-mails I receive from Upworthy, which provides links to interesting things that matter.
So what can you do? Teach your children how to not be rapists. Teach them the difference between coercion and consent. Report sexual violence, encourage others to do the same. Don’t vote for politicians who try to legalize certain forms of rape. Speak up when people you know do or say things that normalize rape. Support victims, not rapists. To learn how you can help more, visit RAINN.
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